You know how there are those golden rules of what you do not, under any circumstances, ask a woman? Questions like:
When is your due date?
Are you really going to eat all of that?
You seem upset, is it that time of the month?
Yeah, you know the ones. I can already see you making that face. So woman to woman, let me plead with you for a moment to consider some similar no-go statements to say to a single female. I hear them all the time. I’m not afraid of my singlehood, but that doesn’t mean you have to billboard it for me.
Here are some of my personal favorites (and then what the little voice in my head says):
- You’re young – you still have time.
Umm…do I turn into a pumpkin if I run out of “time?”
- You’re still single; you wouldn’t understand.
Oh, Thanks. I wasn’t aware my IQ was measured in proportion to my marital status.
- You’re not a mother; you wouldn’t understand.
I’m a dog mom. Does that count?
- Oh, you don’t want (a boyfriend, a husband, or kids). Life is better single.
Glad you saved me the trouble of finding out for myself.
- Isn’t there anyone special in your life?
Sure there is. My dog. Didn’t we go over this?
I’m not afraid of my singlehood, but that doesn’t mean you have to billboard it for me. Here’s what not to say to a single woman!
I’ve spent a fair amount of time wandering on the road between contentment and impatience. Contentment being the land where I am good exactly where I am at in life, the place where I have everything I need. Peace and Grace live harmoniously in a nice two bedroom condo with an ocean view and access to a swimming pool. Impatience being the dwelling place of half-baked decisions, loneliness, and feebleness. They share a shoebox-sized studio apartment with Frustration and Insecurity crashing on the pull-out couch.
I travel back and forth from both places on occasion when I hear anyone giving me, or anyone else, unsolicited relationship advice. As much as I believe it is never intended to be disrespectful or insensitive, there are days I don’t wish to hear the single-life no-nos.
Woman to woman, single or married, dating or complicated, we are all at different places in our lives and all over the map. The roads we journey down are going to be different and the routes we take are going to be unlike any others. But we’re all trying to travel with a little grit and lot of grace, making every mile a memory.
You’ll love this episode of our podcast This Grit and Grace Life: Conquering Struggles Women Will Face in Every Stage of Life (with Dr. Zoe Shaw) – 009
You’ll also like 5 Reasons to Love Being Single, Traveling Solo, How and Why You Need to Just Go for It, 5 Tips for Successful Independence, To My Single Friends, and Anatomy of a Strong Woman.